"Let it go"

 Everyone has a heart. It only takes a little effort to overcome "bad times".

Some are born with perfectly normal hearts. Some are born with difficulties within the heart. Some damage their own hearts from committing heinous acts or from experiencing something tragic that really takes a tole out of them.

Some don't have the best childhood. Some experience neglect. Some never know how to love. Some don't know what it is to be loved, to care, to be kind, to be respectful, to have a real smile on their face . Some experience abuse.

 So why is it that people loose the innocence of civility? Is it because of the world and the experiences we encounter? Or, is it because we can't let go?

I didn't have the best childhood. Neither did my mom, or my mom's mom, or her mom, and so on and so on. That's where the problem is. People don't know how to let go. Not just that, but people don't know how to overcome the problem and break the chain. This is where civility is taken away.

Civility means to be polite and respectful towards others.

"Civility means a great deal more than just being nice to one another. It is complex and 

encompasses learning how to connect successfully and live well with others, developing 

thoughtfulness, and fostering effective self-expression and communication. Civility includes 

courtesy, politeness, mutual respect, fairness, good manners, as well as a matter of good 

health. Taking an active interest in the well-being of our community and concern for the 

health of our society is also involved in civility." 

                                                     --P. M. Forni

 The fact that my relatives can't let go is a huge interference with their civility. They are so "butt-tight" about the past that their entire lives revolve around it.That's one thing that you don't want to have in your life. Instead of keeping those bad times locked onto your shoulder, let it go and use all that past to change into the person with true civility, your true self. Everyone has something they want become, to use, to endure in life and be proud of. So let it go.

In Disney's new movie Frozen, Elza was afraid of hurting the people of the kingdom after hurting her sister. She isolated herself and lived in fear. In fear that she couldn't control her power, but in the of the film, she finally learned to let go of fear, of the past. Want to know with what? With love. Love that came from the civility that aroused within her.

It all starts with civility. Politeness. Respect. Courtesy.

With civility towards yourself you bring peace to you and to others. You will learn to accept your past and let go, learn how to love others and yourself, be kind, and smile for real this time. Civility that will be shown through you, your past, your future.

So let it go.